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Sextimacy: Separating Sex From Emotional Intimacy

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

What is Sextimacy? Sextimacy can be defined as the effort to find emotional intimacy through sex. In such sexually liberated times as these, it can be easy to confuse sexual connection with emotional intimacy. This is not the sex ed they taught in 8th grade!

 
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Anxious In Love: How to Cope and Cuff

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

Anxiety acts as an unfortunate agent of love. It's that tingling butterfly feeling in our stomach when we hang out with our crush. It's our heart beating out of control lying in bed at night thinking about them. Having a predisposition to an anxiety disorder can make being in a relationship that much more of a struggle. So how does having anxiety impact our interpersonal and intimate relationships?

 
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Are You a Maximizer Or a Satisficer?

As part of PAPER's month-long "Sexpress" series, New York-based sexologist Shelby Sells will be writing weekly columns that investigate modern sexuality. Dive into her sexpertise, below.

How do we determine someone's value as a romantic significant other? Researchers have discovered the two most popular methods when it comes to choosing a significant other. Maximizing your choice means picking the best option and never settling for anything less. Satisficing, on the other hand, focuses on figuring out what attributes you're looking for in a partner and making a commitment as soon as you find them.